communication skills

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The more I’m around kids the more I realize that we never really grow up, we just find more “acceptable” ways to express the same thoughts and feelings.

Today’s lesson (courtesy of my 3 1/2 yr. old daughter) — pay attention to actions, not just words.

Us: “Hey, Kiddo. Please finish your breakfast so we can get ready for school.”

Her: “I will.”

Us (a few minutes later): “We’re going to have to leave for school soon, please finish your breakfast so we can get ready.”

Her:  “I Will. I WILL! I WILL! AAAAAAAA!!!” (repeat, and intersperse with periods of jumping up and down.)

Hmm. Did she really think that saying “I will” was the same as actually eating her breakfast? (Maybe, but I doubt it.) Did we ever believe that when she said “I will” that she really would? (Um, no.)

Ok, I get it. She’s three…. Part of her mission in life is to push boundaries…. Sometimes, we all have bad mornings…. I can come up with lots of very reasonable excuses, but you know what, it still would have been easier for everyone involved if she had just eaten her breakfast.

Now, lest you think I’m going to turn this into a parenting blog, let me bring this back to what I see every day in my “grown-up” life (and no, I’m not exempt from this either):

Your boss (first thing in the morning): ” Can you get me the client presentation by the end of the day?”

You: “Sure, no problem.”

You (inner voice): “I will. After I check my email. Get a cup of coffee. Update my Facebook, etc…. There are so many other things I’d rather be doing than working on a client presentation.”

Your boss (later that afternoon): “How’s it coming on that presentation? I need to have it by the end of the day.”

You: “Yep, I’m working on it.”

You (inner voice): “I Will. I WILL! I WILL! AAAAAAAA!!!”

Okay, maybe you don’t get to the jumping up and down part, but wouldn’t it have been easier just to have done the presentation instead of delaying it? Did the benefits (one more email/FB update) of the delay outweigh its consequences (stress for boss and you)?

What I’ve learned? That “I will” often has no meaning and may only be an excuse to *not* take action. Instead, look for “here’s what I’ve done” and the actions that follow.

I will write for one hour every day this week. (Whatever.)

I will write for one hour every day this week. Yesterday, I wrote for 30 minutes, and today I’ve written for 45. (Hmm, looks like you’re taking this writing thing seriously. Maybe I should pay attention.)

I know I certainly have areas of my life where I’ve been applying this type of 3yr old logic. What about you? And more importantly, what are you going to do about it?

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Open sign

Via loop_oh on flickr

Are you open for business?

Every day I walk past vacant restaurants and half-empty shops, “victims” of the recession, of tough economic times, of changing priorities and values. Well, to all of that I say “Hooey!”*

*Yes, apparently I’ve turned into a cranky octogenarian.

For every restaurant that has seen its customers dwindle away, there’s another one out there welcoming them in. Offering specials that are amazing to the palate and sensitive on the wallet. Getting out of the kitchen to talk with (and listen to) their customers. Taking advantage of opportunities to try something new or to partner with like-minded businesses. Yes, some of them are using technology (newsletters, Twitter, Facebook), but that’s only a piece of the puzzle.

Think about it. What do your customers want? Not what they need, what they want. I need to eat breakfast, I want to eat my favorite breakfast burrito from Udi’s.

How can you let them know that:

You have what they want.

Menus are helpful. Menus with detailed descriptions are more helpful. Menus with detailed descriptions, plus pictures, plus write-ups from you and your customers are the most helpful.

You will help them get what they want.

How many obstacles do you place in your customer’s path? Can they easily find out where you are? When you’re open? If you’re kid-friendly/vegan/gluten-free/etc… (Hint: Communicate, communicate, communicate.)

They will feel confident and successful during (and after) this process.

What? Is talking about your customers’ feelings too woo-woo* for you? Remember how you felt ordering the first time at Starbucks? (or insert your favorite coffee shop here.) After countless visits, you now feel comfortable and confident.

*Note to self: try “too woo-woo” phrase with 3 yr old daughter tomorrow. Take bets whether I get fits of toddler giggles or the scarily pre-teen eye roll.

Most people will continue to frequent those places where they’ve learned the routine and know what to expect because it’s more comfortable knowing your expectations will be met than taking a risk on something new that might be a disappointment. No one goes to the Red Lobster in Times Square because they want great seafood.

Although, I’d recommend starting with the first two steps, don’t underestimate the importance of this final element. If you’re customers are buying a product/service that they want and feel good about buying (not just the product, the whole experience),  you’ve just put yourself miles ahead of your competition.  Now “I want a hot dog.” becomes “I want to go to Steve’s Snappin’ Dogs” or “Let’s go out for brunch.” becomes “Let’s go to Satchel’s.”

So, let’s say our farewell to those businesses that have been “victims” of these “tough economic times” and a hearty hello to those who continue to give us what we want while putting a smile on our face.*

*You know what I meant. Get your mind out of the gutter.

What do you think? What are examples, good and bad, that you’ve seen lately?

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You're doing it wrong: How poor communication drives customers away

August 21, 2009

I don’t know if there’s a full moon or some other astrological craziness right now, but my friends and I seem to all be facing crazy (and often, sucky) communication challenges lately! Here are a couple of tips for avoiding communication that drives your customers (and employees) away.

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