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The more I’m around kids the more I realize that we never really grow up, we just find more “acceptable” ways to express the same thoughts and feelings.
Today’s lesson (courtesy of my 3 1/2 yr. old daughter) — pay attention to actions, not just words.
Us: “Hey, Kiddo. Please finish your breakfast so we can get ready for school.”
Her: “I will.”
Us (a few minutes later): “We’re going to have to leave for school soon, please finish your breakfast so we can get ready.”
Her: “I Will. I WILL! I WILL! AAAAAAAA!!!” (repeat, and intersperse with periods of jumping up and down.)
Hmm. Did she really think that saying “I will” was the same as actually eating her breakfast? (Maybe, but I doubt it.) Did we ever believe that when she said “I will” that she really would? (Um, no.)
Ok, I get it. She’s three…. Part of her mission in life is to push boundaries…. Sometimes, we all have bad mornings…. I can come up with lots of very reasonable excuses, but you know what, it still would have been easier for everyone involved if she had just eaten her breakfast.
Now, lest you think I’m going to turn this into a parenting blog, let me bring this back to what I see every day in my “grown-up” life (and no, I’m not exempt from this either):
Your boss (first thing in the morning): ” Can you get me the client presentation by the end of the day?”
You: “Sure, no problem.”
You (inner voice): “I will. After I check my email. Get a cup of coffee. Update my Facebook, etc…. There are so many other things I’d rather be doing than working on a client presentation.”
Your boss (later that afternoon): “How’s it coming on that presentation? I need to have it by the end of the day.”
You: “Yep, I’m working on it.”
You (inner voice): “I Will. I WILL! I WILL! AAAAAAAA!!!”
Okay, maybe you don’t get to the jumping up and down part, but wouldn’t it have been easier just to have done the presentation instead of delaying it? Did the benefits (one more email/FB update) of the delay outweigh its consequences (stress for boss and you)?
What I’ve learned? That “I will” often has no meaning and may only be an excuse to *not* take action. Instead, look for “here’s what I’ve done” and the actions that follow.
I will write for one hour every day this week. (Whatever.)
I will write for one hour every day this week. Yesterday, I wrote for 30 minutes, and today I’ve written for 45. (Hmm, looks like you’re taking this writing thing seriously. Maybe I should pay attention.)
I know I certainly have areas of my life where I’ve been applying this type of 3yr old logic. What about you? And more importantly, what are you going to do about it?
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